ABC Kuramı REBT Terapisi
Albert Ellis tarafından REBT adında gerçekleştirilen bir RASYONEL DUYGUSAL DAVRANIŞ TERAPİSİ… (benim çevirim)
İşin özünde şu yatıyor arkadaşlar, bizi mantıklı yapan şey aslında eylemler değil eylemler hakkındaki inançlarımızdır. Yani bir genç düşünün sevgilisi tarafından terk ediliyor. Eğer genç bu olaya şöyle yaklaşırsa “Beni herkes sevmek zorunda, nasıl beni terk eder, ben herkes tarafından onaylanmalıyım.” Bu genç büyük ihtimalle depresyon vs. takıntıları olacaktır. Kompleksli klasik kız tribleri gibi düşünün… Ama şöyle düşünürse “ beni herkesin sevme zorunluluğu yok, sevenler olduğu kadar sevmeyenlerin olması da gayet doğal” şeklinde düşünmesi o durumu daha hafif bir üzüntüyle atlatmasını sağlayacaktır. Komplekse ne gerek var, elini sallasa ellisi gibi mesela J
A: olay (activating event)
B: inanç (belief)
C: sonuç (emotional consequence)
Yani kıssadan hisse ABC KURAMI diyor ki, olaylar sizi üzmez üzen olaylara yaklaşım tarzınız yani olaylara karşı sahip olduğunuz fikirlerdir. Bence de çok mantıklı arkadaşlar benim hoşuma giden bir kuram aşağıda İngilizcesi de var. Çeviriyi beğenmeyen arkadaşlar buyursun çevirsin, ben çeviriden çok yorum yaptım. Psikolojik danışmanlardan (Zekeriya ŞAFAK) yardım bekliyoruz. Ferhat BAYIK… site yöneticisi! (reberlikçi değildir, psikolog hiç değil ama İngilizce öğretmenidir.)
Sakın kompleks yapmayın arkadaşlar olaylara karşı inanç
ve yaklaşımlarınızı değiştirmeye çalışın… kimse bekar kalmaz
You’ll get over it…
Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy
Albert Ellis developed Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), a brief, direct, and solution-oriented therapy which focuses on resolving specific problems facing a troubled individual. REBT is the first form of Cognitive Behavior Therapy first set forth by Ellis in 1953. Fundamental to REBT is the concept that our emotions result solely from our beliefs, not by the events that occur in our lives. Therefore, it is of utmost importance for our beliefs to be healthy and rational, because the consequences of these beliefs will be emotional growth and happiness. If our beliefs are irrational and self-defeating, our emotional life suffers from neuroses such as self-blame, depression, and anxiety. REBT is an educational process in which the therapist teaches the client how to identify irrational beliefs, dispute them, and replace them with rational ones. Once the client is equipped with healthy beliefs, emotional difficulties and problematic behavior are abated.
View of the Human Mind
REBT posits that human beings are born with the dual potentials for both healthy and unhealthy thought processes. The healthy process rational thinking and the unhealthy variety irrational thinking. Rational thinking, as would be expected, means objectively seeing things as they really are, whereas irrational thinking distorts reality by misinterpreting things that happen.
At the core of REBT is the A-B-C theory of personality. The A stands for an activating event, usually some type of challenging life situation. An example activating event might be a teenage boy being “dumped” by his girlfriend. The B represents a belief that takes over and causes the emotional consequence, represented by the C. If the belief is irrational (for example, the boy believes “Everyone must always like me and treat me well”), the consequence is likely to be depression or anger. Alternatively, if the belief is rational (e.g. “Sometimes people will not like me and will mistreat me”) the consequence would be only a temporary sadness that the relationship is over. Key to REBT thought is that the belief, not the activating event, causes the emotional consequence. Therefore, if a person has a number of irrational beliefs, then he or she is likely to experience much emotional pain throughout life as various challenges are encountered. On the other hand, if a person’s beliefs are rational, then he or she can handle the disappointing events of life with aplomb. In other words, how one feels is primarily determined by how one thinks.
From whence do our self-sabotaging irrational beliefs originate? REBT teaches that we learn some of them from other people during our childhood and the rest we concoct on our own. This is the only way in which the past matters in REBT: our current beliefs are learned from past experiences. The past cannot be changed and REBT places very little emphasis on discussing it; instead, REBT works to replace the illogical beliefs with logical ones.
In REBT thought, irrational beliefs are the cause of human neuroses, including depression and anxiety. Irrational beliefs tend to ignore the positive, exaggerate the negative, distort reality, and/or overgeneralize. REBT teaches that people tend to overuse “shoulds,” “musts,” and “oughts” (see cognitive_distortion). Many of these self-defeating beliefs are indoctrinated in early life and grow stronger as a person continually revisits them. As mentioned previously, according to the A-B-C theory of personality, the belief, not the activating event, causes the emotional consequence. When the belief is irrational, the emotion is not healthy. The consequences of irrational beliefs can be relatively mild (procrastination, for example) but can also be extremely disruptive, immobilizing, or even dangerous.